Jun 22 2010

Romantic Terrorism

Though ordinary terrorists may occasionally force concessions from governments by blowing up buildings or schoolchildren, romantic terrorists are doomed to disappointment because of a fundamental inconsistency in their approach. You must love me, says the romantic terrorist; I will force you to love me by sulking at you or making you feel jealous. But then comes the paradox, for if love is returned, it is at once considered tainted, and the romantic terrorist must complain, If I have only forced you to love me, then I cannot accept this love, for it was not spontaneously given. Romantic terrorism is a demand that negates itself in the process of its resolution.
(Alain de Botton – On Love)


Jun 2 2010

Epiphanies

“I don’t love her. Or do I?”

“Excuse me?”

“I did not sleep. Last night I was lying awake for more than six hours, and I was thinking about her, I was thinking about the whole situation I’m in and how none of it makes any sense to me.”

“I don’t think I understand.”

“The first thing that comes to my mind when I wake up in the morning is her face, her smile, and instantly I want to give her a call, write her a letter or just meet with her, you know. Last time I sat down with her, I kept staring at her hands and her wrists, and I caught myself thinking how beautiful they are and how badly I want to touch her, not in a sexual way, just… touch her hands, feel her skin.”

“I begin to see where this is going.”

“One day she mentioned this random bloke she had met, and I think I got jealous…”

“Why?”

“Exactly! I don’t know why. I have absolutely no reason to be.”

“So?”

“It doesn’t make sense.”

“What do you mean?”

“I don’t love her. I don’t even have feelings for her. But still… all of this is confusing me.”

“Go on.”

“I see ghosts.” Weiterlesen…